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Posted by on 30 November, 2007

At age 54, life hadn’t turned out like it was supposed to. He was a handsome, successful, Hispanic male. His pretty wife had given him both a son and a daughter. They lived in a lovely home. He was a pillar of his community. Why had he been going into a depression for the last three years? What was missing? What was wrong?


The Reality

In truth, his petite, non-Hispanic wife was passive aggressive and would use every interaction with him to play the wounded victim. He of course was made out to be the persecutor. He had never wanted children and felt trapped in his responsibilities. He was stuck in his job because it served his life style needs. It owned him. He felt that his contemporaries had advanced further and succeeded to a higher degree. He felt he was losing his touch and becoming introverted instead of the charming, self-confident extrovert who was capable of ‘working the room’ at any event. He was in a constant verbal battle with his 16 year old daughter. He had no idea how to relate to her, except to avoid her. So he avoided his wife, his daughter and his 19 year old son who was already away at school. He was becoming isolated, finding himself with a stranger across from the breakfast table with little or nothing in common.

Performing Life

Lack of self worth from years of practicing the fine art of putting oneself last; of making oneself responsible for others’ happiness, comfort, security, love, growth and safety had taken its toll. He was burned out from performing life; no longer being authentic. When was it his turn? When did he get to live based on his desires? Who would give permission to him? How old did he need to be? What circumstances or attitudes regarding his wife, children and job would have to be present to shift his life?

Time Out

Communication with his wife had deteriorated to agenda conversations and a few grunted yeses and nos with some sniping comments thrown in. She didn’t like living in the heat and wanted to move back to Detroit. He was a creature of the sun, loving Texas and California. Texas had been a compromise since she absolutely hated California. Sex was a thing of the past. There was no feeling of nurturing, no sensuality, no love, no inclusion and no success. If ever two people needed time out in their relationship, these were those two. Like many others, they needed breathing space free from the overpowering, confining, judgmental and restrictive energy of a partner.

What’s Missing

Often we can’t even remember what it was like to have that space and freedom, but we desperately need it. From such a vantage point, we get to re-experience ourselves. It feels strange at first, because we aren’t used to making decisions that don’t involve how others will react. Simple freedoms happen. We can go to bed or get up at any time. We can stay out late without reporting in. We can turn TV and music on whenever it pleases us. Just think about all the things you would do if you were a-l-o-n-e. How long would it take for you to feel comfortable in your own skin? How much of your life’s actions, thoughts and feelings are determined by everyone else in your space? Is there a you there at all? This is what is missing in Angelo’s relationship and so many others.

Old Programming

Angelo isn’t broken. Neither is his wife or his children. His parents, priests, associates and community had taught him that if he performed in a certain way, had the right house, the right job and the right attitudes, he would be happy. Everything would be fine. It wasn’t true, but was it too late. He had no skills, no tools to shift a lifetime of responsibilities and teachings. He doesn’t need to replay his problems in order to undo the teachings and fix himself. You can stop beating yourself up when you realize that you are not broken, but just responding to life based on all the input since birth which has been skewed through your own personal veil of fears. You are like a computer that has been programmed with faulty programming. You don’t have to delete the programming or throw the computer away; you can simply install a new application. The old information can just sit there side by side with the new one and you get to choose which one to access.

New Programming

So what is the new programming? Make a new choice. It is as simple as that. You get to choose which emotion you prefer to have. You have already been creating your life subconsciously based on your emotional states: frustration, anger, depression, fear, joy, excitement, enthusiasm, abandonment or boredom. You have simply been doing it unconsciously, letting yourself be overwhelmed by these feelings and your reactions to them. When you begin to wake up, you see that you can choose the feeling you prefer. You can choose the reactions you prefer. You will no longer be a puppet and victim of the triggers all around you. You begin to notice that as you decide consciously what emotion you prefer to feel, that your world begins to draw experiences to you that validate and reaffirm that feeling. For instance, as Angelo began feeling lack of self worth, he began to draw to him reminders that his friends has surpassed him in business. If he had felt good about his level of achievement, he would have drawn memories to himself of people that HE had surpassed.

A Chance to Talk

Just having a chance to express these nameless fears in a non-judgmental environment is a huge relief to many. Angelo had seen his sister achieve a sense of self and break away from the early faulty programming. She was now with a wonderful mate, happy and full of life. But she had alienated her family in the process. He didn’t want to do it that way. For that matter, he wasn’t even sure what ‘it’ was. But something had to change. We discussed his creating change that was love based. Thus he would not feel the need to create separation defensively as his sister had done.

Telepathic Communication

Angelo and I talked about getting focused and speaking telepathically, head to head, from his heart and soul, to the higher selves of his wife, daughter and son. This kind of connecting has extraordinary impact. It gets through. It is our ancient form of communication and our bodies still understand it. This kind of head talk is not agenda oriented. It is simply passionately telling a loved one of your fears, your desires, your needs and your preferences. It is not used to manipulate. It has no goal, no conditions, no ego, and no separation. It is an act of love, from your being to theirs.

Altered State

It is best to achieve an altered and loving space before communicating this way. Its purpose is to communicate your heart’s desire and your feelings. Obviously there can be no arguing, no backlash and no game playing. This is about you, not your mate. You are revealing the intimate you in your head talk. Achieving this loving space is really quite easy. It begins with choosing to do it. Raise your vibrations by reading an uplifting book, listen to music that stirs your soul, meditate, pray or recall loving experiences and their accompanying feelings.

Choosing Joy

We all make mistakes in life, but any mistake is merely a step. Will you take the next step into conscious choice and shift your attitude, perspective and emotions? All of life is about choosing. We go down wrong paths in our lives, usually unknowingly. Realizing we are not happy, we get to consciously choose again. There are tools out there to change your direction in the vibration of grace and ease. We do not have to do upheaval, create chaos or illness. Depression is only one choice. Joy is another. Find the tools that work for you. Begin making conscious decisions about feelings. Practice being happy 17 seconds at a time, then 2 minutes at a time. Do this several times a day and your seemingly ‘wrong path’ will change miraculously. You will have been the magician. The magic pill of anti-depression is within you.

Your choices about which emotion you will focus on will lead you out of depression or further into it. You decide. You are the miracle worker in your life. You are far more powerful than you know.

Joy is always an option!

About Dolly Mae

A leading voice in the world of contemporary spirituality, Dolly Mae reveals secrets about how to create wealth, embrace change, manage emotions and access intuitive gifts. Using her down to earth methods to find Joy on the journey will change your life. A worldwide speaker, Dolly Mae is a frequent guest on TV and talk radio. She is known for her fresh, straightforward, humorous approach. Her book “Choosing Joy in the Midst of Crisis” is a best seller. Dolly Mae lives in the Seattle area. For more information see

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Working as a Professional Cheirologist
Posted by on 08 August, 2005

It´s a bit different every day, but this gives you an idea of my "typical" workday.

Professional hand analysts and cheirologists are usually self-employed. They can work from home, at local new age shops, and at fairs and expos. Some choose to stay near their homes, while others enjoy travelling to the many different expos in various large cities. Earnings vary greatly depending on skill and experience, but typically range from $40 - $120 USD per hour (for hours worked). In most countries all that is required is a municipal business licence, but some areas may also require certification in counselling, so check the regulations for your area in advance.

Being a professional cheirologist is not for the judgemental or the faint-of-heart. You have to be able to discuss a person´s most sensitive issues with understanding and compassion, yet maintain your own integrity and emotional-control.

The first step in becoming a professional palmistry or cheirologist is simply to learn the trade. Books are a good place to start, but some things will have to be learned either through experience or from another professional who has been in the field for many years. Be ready for the many apparent contradictions and discrepancies between different palmistry systems/schools (Which is usually just the same information from 2 different points of view). Once virtually all your readings receive the reactions of "Wow!", "Amazing!", and "Phenomenal!", then you´re ready to take the step from amateur to professional. If the reactions to your readings is "Hmm", "Interesting", "Lots to think about", or "Thanks", then you still have much to learn.

Remember that hand analysis combines extremely well with applied palmar massage (such as reflexology) and any "laying of hands" techniques (such as qigong). One such combination is taught in the Holistic Cheirology course (

I love my work. I don´t know many other people who wake up each morning excited to start their business day. It may seem like long hours, but much of it is pure enjoyment for me, so it hardly seems like work at all. Each day is different from the last, and I never know quite what to expect. Being able to work from home while raising my 2 year old daughter has truly been a Blessing.

Here is a "typical" summer day for me:
04:30 Get up and ready for the day. Meditation & quiet time. Enjoy the sunrise.
05:30 Collect emails and answer priority or urgent messages.
06:00 Website promotion. Watch morning news on television.
06:30 Write articles, website updates, or business promotions planning.
07:30 Wife and daughter wake up. Family time.
08:00 Teach Tai Chi student(s), or answer remaining emails.
09:00 Hand analysis client(s) or housekeeping. Playing with daughter.
10:00 Wife goes off to work. Time split between playing with daughter (80%) and personal Kung Fu training (20%).
13:00 Daughter has a nap (maybe!). Collect and answer new emails, return telephone calls, and book client appointments.
15:00 Prepare dinner or take care of shopping, banking, post office, etc..
17:00 Wife comes home from work. Break for dinner & some family time.
18:00 Take care of remaining phone calls, emails, and other correspondence, or evening readings at a party or event.
20:00 Workday done. Start getting daughter ready for bed.
21:00 Day nears completion. Enjoy the sunset.

Every day is a bit different, but this gives you an idea of a "normal" day for me.

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